As many of you may already have heard, the American Academy of Pediatrics has issued new guidelines on car seats. The new guidelines state that a toddler should be in a rear-facing car seat until they are two-years-old or they outgrow the height or weight limit for the car seat.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
For the month of March, NFI’s Dad Email is featuring tips and advice on how dads can use technology to help them build their relationships with their kids. Check out the resources from our “Tech Savvy Daddy” campaign here, which we’ll be updating with more information every week this month.
Last week, our focus was on “Mobile Connections,” or using text messaging to connect with teens. A recent Pew Research Study found that 75% of teens have a cell phone. Most of them have text messaging capability, and boy do they use it! 54% of teens texted their friends daily in 2010 (skyrocketing from only 38% who texted daily in 2008!). One out of three send more than 100 text messages daily!
For those of you who are fathers of teenagers, you probably feel like their thumbs are glued to their phone. But, as our Dad Email last week pointed out, if texting is teenagers’ primary means of communicating, why not speak their language? We put together a list of text messages that dads can send their teens to encourage them and build their relationship. Check it out here.
I work with a group of high school students at my church, and I quickly figured out that texting is the most effective way to communicate with them. When we were writing the suggestions of text messages for dads, I sent a text to the teens I know and asked them, “What’s a meaningful text message your dad could send you that would help build your relationship?” If we’re trying to help dads connect with their teens, why not get advice from them?
Here’s what I got back:
- just check in and see how i was doing
- maybe like i love u just wanted to remind u
- probably a Bible verse or just a note that told me to hang in there, or an invitation to spend time with him. That always means a lot to me. :)
One text I got back from a teen whose dad is not very involved hit on a much deeper issue. What would be meaningful for this teenager would be “for him to realize what he has put me through and to want to change that.” Clearly, there are years of hurt that need to be undone in this relationship and a couple text messages aren’t going to do much, but I think a little effort on the part of this dad to move closer to his child would do a lot.
I think that’s true for any dad-teen relationship, no matter how good or bad it is. A little investment in your teen’s life will go a long way. Even if it’s as simple as a text message to say “I love you.”
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Brad Meltzer, a friend of NFI and author of a great fatherhood book, recently lost his dad. Being the writer that he is, he wrote an incredible eulogy. It is filled with humor, storytelling, and most importantly, love.
Monday, March 14, 2011
Friday, March 11, 2011
My husband and I found out a few months ago we were expecting our first baby. My husband is fortunate to have a flexible schedule and was eager to join me for my first prenatal appointment.
During that appointment, my husband, eager to learn everything he could, sat by my side opposite the doctor. He listened intently to everything she said and even had his own set of questions. As the appointment concluded, the doctor handed me a series of informational sheets about prenatal testing and a large bag of materials. With the loot in tow, we headed home and laid out the contents of the bag trying to learn even more. Here is what was inside…
For the Mom: Congratulations on your pregnancy packet, business cards for the practice, Baby magazine, 'As Your Baby Grows' booklet, 'Strong Moms Pregnancy Planner'
That’s right - there was absolutely nothing geared for dads. Sure, my husband can look over the pregnancy planner and the ads for maternity wear and formula, but there was nothing specifically for him. I am sure there are other moms and dads out there that can relate.
Research shows that dads feel inadequately prepared for fatherhood. There is lots of talk about why dads need to be more involved- yet we gear everything in the first years of life towards supporting the mother.
This is exactly why NFI’s work is so important. If you are an expectant dad or are an expectant mom looking to give a soon-to-be dad the support he needs, make sure to head over to our “For Fathers” section of our website, or check out our resources at FatherSource.